Once you understand what you are emotionally up against in your family's emotional system, you are well ahead on your road to developing a self and realizing your vision for self. Anxiety is the Bermuda Triangle sinkhole on your road.

All of us know the sinking feelings that come with change. The windsheer of emotions that rush throughout our mind, body and soul can delay your arrival to your destination of a more clearly defined self. The better able you are to deal with and to ward off feelings of anxiety, the fewer pockets of unexpected air turbulence from the family cosmos.

When you are blind to the road ahead, anxiety or fear can disturb your functioning. If there is a lot that is unknown, it is natural for people focus on others. It is a natural law of survival. Fight, flight and hang on tight are the same in nature and in human nature. In a state of fear, animals and humans become intensely aware of how the other can hurt them.

What if one animal or one person knows they can influence the outcome just by building a better self, a vision of survival built upon a strategy of personal responsibility, instead of me versus you? There are many roads to building a more stable knowledgeable self.

Overall if you are aware of being more connected, yet having an increasing ability to separate your feelings from those of important others, there is less internal anxiety about knowing where you stand in life. There are many techniques that are useful to stabilize self, like: alpha training, brain gym, warming hands, breathing, jogging, etc., but the recurring theme of all of these methods is the constant return on being calm in the storm.

The goal is have enough inner strength to believe that you will figure out where you in relation to others and nature. Only then will the rest of your family calm down, after of course, they have tested your limits. The resilience you will develop will give you confidence in choosing what road to take on your journey to self and your personal vision for self will be clear. Some call this destiny. You may call it whatever suits your path.

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